I am always having a debate with myself. I think of two great ideas and want to go with them. So this is difficult for me. Also because I let others make me second guess myself. Partly because I lack confidence. But here is something pretty common, DH is Duh Hubby and ME is well myself. This is a never ending thing, but hopefully it will end one day, though unlikely cause we are both stubborn. Now this is not word for word but it is pretty darn close. I am leaving out curse words this time.
Subject: How my family treats me
DH: You let your family walk all over you, all the time and I am getting tired of it
ME: I know they do it sometimes, but not all the time
DH: No it is all the time
ME: Like how, give me an example
DH:When your moms calls and needs you to come to the school your there
ME: I have nothing better to do, why wouldn’t I go
DH: Your brother needs help but won’t return the favor
ME: He gave me somewhere to live once I moved out before I graduated, I owed him
DH: *growls with frustration*
ME: You think I am letting them walk all over me, I think I am being family, being there when they need me and what not
DH: But they are never there for you unless they benefit from it. Name once when they came to your rescue without lording it over your head or making it a big deal!
ME: *silence cause he has a point*
DH: See you can’t do it.
Unfortunately he ends up winning most of the time. To me I think I am doing the right thing, to him he sees them walking all over me, cause when it comes time to return a favor they can never do it, or they make a huge deal out of it. So I drop it because I want to keep peace within the family so maybe one day my son can see what a family is about. But I also know that I need to look out for myself and not let them do that to me.